Research has shown our greatest regrets in life come not from the consequences of our actions, but from failing to take action at all.
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Video Transcript hello hello hello and welcome again to another weekly wind down i’m randall this is stella and i’m diane bro pick a lady of prescott and we’re also the spouses who sell houses back for another weekly wind down that’s right happy to be here again absolutely and what’s our topic for this for today coffee um coffee it’s a phenomenon it is a phenomenon we see it a lot in this business we really do yeah it’s something that makes me cry a lot yeah a lot yeah you see people fall in love with a home they’re all set to go and something inside of them just um they can’t pull the trigger just can’t pull the trigger and we’re here to tell you brothers and sisters fool the trigger trigger be brave yeah well the first thing you need to realize is what’s happening yes so like we had a a couple that they they came to prescott they’ve been a few times third trip yep uh he loves this house he loves house a she loves house b so in the end after much deliberation they decide go home which yeah without making an offer on either one which essentially um by not making a decision you are making you have made a decision yeah and and it’s not about oh i hate her house you know he has my house i hate her it’s not about indecision it’s really about fear right uh fear of the unknown fear about moving forward and the mind plays tricks on you i don’t know i decided i don’t like the fireplace or i can’t live with the doorknob it’s called a little bit of sabotaging yeah yeah like a cognitive dissonance thing right i don’t want to admit to myself that i’m afraid to move forward so i’m going to find something wrong with every house that i look at right so i can tell people oh i just know i could do it because of this yeah so this couple came in third trip in uh fell in love with two different houses and walked away with either so what’s going to happen somebody else is going to buy your dream home that’s right and live in your dream your beautiful life that you thought you were going to have in preschool that’s right in the house that you blocked somebody else is now going to enjoy themselves in your house and that’s a no-go here’s a little trick of the trade to somebody agents might not know this either okay um if you have a situation like that and people love two homes there’s a multiple offer form oh yeah that’s right so go ahead put an offer in on both there’s a perform see what kind of deal you can get whichever one wins guess what you made a decision but you move forward take baby steps at a time exactly exactly and so it’s kind of a heartbreaker it is when people do that yeah they do it to themselves yeah because we want you to be here in prescott yeah we want you to love it here as much as we do we were in your shoes yeah we know yeah that’s once we speak correct yeah we came from texas where our kids grew up uh we had a wonderful group of friends yeah um very close to to them and we just decided it was time for a change we were scared to death scared to death we didn’t know anybody here not one i was about to say zero but it’s really not one soul not one soul yeah and i don’t know we just committed and we said it’s time to make a change yeah and part of it i think was recognizing that we were afraid right you know i would look at you you would look at me and clearly were terrified but if you know it’s fear then you can deal with it as fear you know don’t do a jedi mind trick to yourself and you know oh it’s about the doorknob it’s nothing to do with the door now yeah and being courageous and taking the next step it’s it being brave is not about not being afraid it’s about being afraid but still moving forward yes um you know courageous people feel those feelings too and uh you can’t let that hold you back you can’t let that dictate your life that’s right life is short yeah um we don’t know what’s around the corner yeah but i tell you we moved here it was hard it was hard some tears yeah um but we have met and the most wonderful people here it’s paradise it is paradise here i did not know this whole type of geography or topography i had to learn how to drive up hill yeah it was difficult for me so it’s been fun and it’s also been very bonding yeah when uh especially if you’re empty nesters like we are it’s very bonding to jump into something new and you really just have to cling to each other well we didn’t clean so much because we’re not clingers we’re fairly independent yeah but uh you know to solve the problems together without our usual backup or fallbacks or anything else uh so it’s good it’s good yeah and it’s something you do for yourself yes yeah we’ve spent a lot of our lives in houston yeah and a lot of a lot of our friends worked in the oil business and you know one day they tell you oh guess what we’re gonna move you to bangladesh you know it’s never a good place it’s always some god-forsaken place that happens to have oil you know these families they’ll say oh you know it’s an adventure and they do it because i have to right but it when it comes time and they’ve retired from those oil companies the idea that i could now move from bangladesh to some place like prescott it’s a it’s a proactive thing you know i’m taking action and somehow that makes it scarier for some people because they’re doing it to themselves instead of obeying orders right we’ve been there we had a two-day drive across the country with three animals and two cars back to the gills yeah it was it was music it was not easy but so well worth it for this next chapter in our life yeah so for all of you waffling do i want to move should i just stay put do it do it the science of regret tells us that people on their death bed regret things that they haven’t done somebody somebody on their deathbed what are you regretting well it’s true this is true they’ve done these studies and people don’t say you know i regret having taken action you know and it didn’t pan out what they regret is never having taken that action at all it’s like if i had done x then my life would have been so much different and i really wonder what that would have been like instead of just following the bouncing bomb yeah 32 years ago 32 years ago just joking just joking very funny that’s just a joke but anyway be brave be bold that’s right for instance randall grow yeah don’t be too bold don’t be too bold yeah don’t be reckless once you do a little buzz yeah i’ve been cutting my own hair for well over ten years yeah i hate getting my hair cut you gotta listen to the ladies cat stories you know i i just my hair is not that complicated i do with buzz cut so he has a buzz cut and uh then yeah mr bros yeah well well before i do that just in my own defense it was late i had a scotch and i didn’t i picked up the razor i mean i i the razor has a guard that keeps you from getting too close so i just you know before i go to bed sometimes it’s a tip you know and uh so i did that and uh didn’t realize there was no guard on it so show us the after effects yeah get in the light get in the light that is not a bald spot that’s just uh yeah that’s just a major hair cut it’s a it’s a town sure yeah it’s a timeshare i’m not sure if they say the monks have them yeah we have it here we’re hoping it grows in soon so we’re not telling you do anything that crazy don’t be that brave take it easy on yourself if you do send pictures it’s only fair it is pretty funny yeah he’s like i can’t believe i did this like well you are i couldn’t believe it it was not even a whole second i just immediately knew what i did oh my gosh so this week before we close we’d like to talk about our amazing pickle pick of the week pickle pick of the week it is a beautiful property on elizabeth is it way outside elizabeth this is an amazing amazing home it’s gorgeous top-notch and decorated beautifully yeah um go to our website and check it out yeah um just find the property on the road yeah it’s uh prescott prescottpicklelady.com elizabeth yes it is gorgeous i love showing this home um it’s just a real feel-good house uh i just love the way it’s appointed you’ll love it too it’s about at a great price too i think it’s uh 6 49 i don’t know i don’t know we’ll have it there yeah it’s it’s beautiful it’s been reduced i think at least once or twice you got to check it out yeah it’s a bargain uh just beautiful home i love everything about it all right my friends well that’s it for this week and we hope that you have a fabulous weekend if you need any help from the spouses who sell houses don’t forget to call randall and i at 713 we’re here for you all right and if you don’t want to make the drive just hop on the plane oh yeah that’s right have a great night you
